For all of us living the RV lifestyle, one of the most universal circumstance we have
in common is the fact that we all have neighbors. If you are just visiting a RV
community, or are joining in on a “Jamboree” to celebrate something. If you were
invited to a get together for your specific RV club, or even if you are “Boon-docking”
without the great amenities of a RV Resort or spa, chances are there will be people
there you do not know (People are everywhere. LOL). If you are an introvert, this tends
to make meeting new people a challenge to say the least.
With the internet available to so many today, this also opens up a virtual world .
You can potentially meet someone via an online group that you may not physically
meet for months. There are online groups for your specific RV, like the Forest River
owners group. There are online forums also where you can find out about RV groups
In your area, like the RV dreams forum. Just a few options to get to know the RV lifestyle
Community. Obviously, take precautions with anyone you meet online.
But, if you want to be more outgoing and want to introduce yourself to the
couple that lives in the Class A Dolphin two doors down, I hope after
reading this article, you will be inspired to go out an introduce yourself. Not
just to your immediate neighbors, but also to your neighbors in all the RV
communities you visit while traveling in your RV.
Here are eight important things to keep in mind when introducing yourself to
new people for the first time. Because all situations and people are different, remember
to use and adjust these ideas for your situation.
A smile can make others feel like they want to talk to you.
This is a very important. Sometimes your smile can make a first impression even before you open your mouth. Although most of us are told to not judge a book by it’s cover, If you
are not smiling, (and I mean genuinely smiling) It can have a negative effect on your entire conversation. And that is what an introduction typically is, a conversation.
2.Make eye contact
I know from experience how hard this one can be for most. The importance of this suggestion is that it tells the person you are speaking to that you are listening to what they are saying and
not just “politely nodding”.
Another small tip I have learned, is when looking others in the eye,
take note of their eye color. This will help you more easily recall their
name, as now you have a reference to go by.
(example: Patrice, your neighbor with the beautiful green eyes!!)
3.Be aware of body language
Take note of not only the body language of the person you are talking
to, but also your own. If it helps, you can try to emulate what you are
seeing. If your neighbors look relaxed, it will make you feel more relaxed
and able to have a more genuine experience.
Remember that doing actions like crossing your arms, make you seem more
closed off, to both situations and information. Your neighbor may not want
to engage in conversation if you look as though you don’t want to either.
This may seem like the most obvious thing on the planet, but it is worth
mentioning. I have actually had conversations with strangers, where I did
not ask their name. These were my horrible one sided conversations,where
these potential friends that I had great common ground with, stayed
just that, strangers.
And if you don’t ask their name, you only have half the information you need
for the eye contact idea to work. Just remember, you can’t know a name you forgot
to ask for.
5.Search for common ground in conversation
Rarely will you find another person that you have absolutely nothing in common with.
Even if your introducing yourself to someone who has English as a second language. We
all read, watch television, have hobbies, hopes, and dreams. Think about the things that
you enjoy doing. Did you recently watch a great episode of your favorite show? Have you
read a great book? Those are both good topics for discussion, and can also lead you to
Common ground can come up organically in conversation, or can be brought up because you noticed something that Caught your eye. Complementing turquoise earrings can lead you to the fact that her husband makes jewelry and she collects and polishes stones. And you just happen to have a rock tumbler In your RV!!!!
OK, that example was a bit of a reach, but I’m trying to illustrate to you how organic common-ground can come about. And now you have something specifically in common with the neighbor you just met.
I do not want you to get hung up on common ground. Some really great friendship started out with very little in common. Don’t let the lack of stop you from getting to know the people next door.
Asking questions will help the conversation grow. You will be able to learn new things
and have opportunities to add pieces of information about yourself as well. Asking about
the other person will also take the spotlight off of you. This will make any of our introvert
readers very happy.
I am sure that everyone has had that conversation where you leave with an overload of
information about the other person, but you didn’t have an opportunity to tell them about
yourself. Did you leave that experience with less than a positive memory? When a conversation is one sided, it is hard to make a great impression, an impression where they will want to engage in more conversations with you. Your goal is to make a good memory, so that if after that day you made a friend, you both will have fond memories about the first time you met.
That being said, when I met a great friend of mine, I know I did not make a great first
Impression. But after getting to know me, we became great friends. This goes back to not
Judging a book by it’s cover. Although I was unable to make our first meeting great, it was
memorable for other reasons, and we got a great friendship out of it.
7.Offer a handshake
I think this is me being very safe. You can usually feel out your individual situation. I often will offer people I meet a handshake. It is so universal and acceptable. There are options of hugs and the hand wave.
The obvious are the reasons to stick to a handshake. What if the other person does not like
being touched. You may have been able to pick up on this in conversation and with
observing others as they interact with your neighbor. So a hug is obviously not the way to go.On the other hand, while your saying your goodbyes, if they are so emboldened and reach in for the hug, you now have the option to reciprocate.
I have read in articles that in some countries, like China, for instance. A firm handshake
when meeting someone new is considered to be impolite. As opposed to a business meeting where it is searched for. Remember, this is not a business meeting. It is a chance to make new acquainted and meet the people you will be living next to for the duration of your stay.
8.Close the conversation
I want to say that this can be as simple as walking away. It is not, and
Let’s face it, that is just plain rude. Closing the conversation with phrasing
like “See you later” ,“Talk to you tomorrow”, or “I’ll catch you later” invites
more conversation at a later time.
Using your neighbors name will make it more personal and genuine. Let’s
Look at these same three examples when names are applied:
“See you later, Diane.”,
“Talk to you tomorrow, Phil.”,
and “I’ll catch you later, Jacob.”
Usually, the reply will be not only similar, but now they have an opportunity
to use your name again, and will be more likely to remember it on your next
In conclusion, I hope these eight ideas help you to introduce yourself and possibly
Make great new friends in the RV community. You never know how things will turn
Out until you take your first step and try.
Do you have other ways that have helped you when introducing yourself?
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